By Gary Barker for Fatherly

I write this on an airplane, a place I spend far too many hours. But this time instead of a trip to one of the 20 countries where I work, I am at the beginning of another father-daughter adventure. Something akin to the first steps when she was one year old, or taking her to pre-school for the first time.

We started with the premise that the solution to changing ideas about being a man was always right in front of us: listening to the men who already questioned harmful ideas about manhood.

I write this on an airplane, a place I spend far too many hours. But this time instead of a trip to one of the 20 countries where I work, I am at the beginning of another father-daughter adventure. Something akin to the first steps when she was one year old, or taking her to pre-school for the first time.

As the flight takes off, the Arcade Fire song “The Suburbs” shuffles through my iPhone and the words hit me again: “I want a daughter while I’m still young. Want to hold her hand, show her some beauty before all this damage is done.” It’s not by coincidence the song is on. Since I first heard the lyrics, I’ve had it on my favorites.